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Want something…how
can you get it?
Don Schmitz/Human Resource Staffing
Who isn’t wishing and hoping for something? But who
actually does something about their dreams? Perhaps, you seek
something from your employer, another employee, your family
or even yourself. There is another way… ask.
Asking for the things you want in life are skills we can all
learn. Some people never learn to ask because they had other
people do the asking for them. Mark Hansen & Jack Canfield,
the authors of “The Aladdin Factor: How to Ask For and
Get Everything You Want” compare asking to magic.
We fear making requests because we are afraid we will be humiliated
with a rejection that we can’t overcome. The truth is
in most cases, no one ever yells at you or locks you in jail
for asking for something you want. The worst that can happen
is someone will say “no”.
So what are the “tricks” to getting what you want?
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Overcome
your fear
Before making a request, believe in the power of you.
Separate the “YOU” from your request. Believe your request
has value and focus on the value of your request. Ask
yourself, what will be the result if the request is
granted? Who will benefit? |
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Organize
your thoughts
Write out exactly what you want. Keep your thoughts
clear and in your own words. Practice your request again
and again until you are convinced. |
| 3. |
Pick
the right time
The old saying, timing is everything is particularly
true when we are asking for something. The time must
be right for you and the requested party. Plan a set-time.
If it’s postponed, don’t be forced to make it an add-on,
wait for the right opportunity to succeed. |
| 4. |
Ask
with confidence
Practice making your request in front of a mirror or
with a friend. Can you smile and make your request?
Are you able to maintain eye contact? Are you being
courteous, firm but friendly? Is your request coming
from your heart? |
| 5. |
Be prepared for resistance
Sometimes even the best requests are met with “no”.
Don’t be discouraged; not everyone gets what they
want on the first attempt but believe, if your request
has the value, there will be another opportunity down
the road. |
| 6. |
Say,
“thank you”
Respond by saying, “Thank you.” Did you
get what you wanted? Maybe not the response you wanted,
but you did make your request, overcome your fear and
ask. |
Each time we take a risk and make a request, our confidence in ourselves grows and we are more valuable as a person and an employee.
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Resource Staffing.
Don Schmitz
is a popular speaker and writer on all aspects of HR and CEO
of Human Resource Staffing. Don holds graduate degrees in
Education, Administration and Human Development.
Contact Don@HumanResourceStaffingInc.com
952 854 6040
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